Saturday 28 March 2009

M's birthday

So 15 years ago today I was having my first night home with M.
I know that the night before the moon was full, and I watched it cross the sky for most of the night, knowing that they planned to induce me. I had a not very nice time in the hospital, I tried to back out of being induced ( i thought I was in to have my waters broken but it was a prostin pessary) and was bullied into it by the doctor, whom I'd never seen before, who said I would have to go home if I didn't agree to it. I thought he meant right away. It was 6 am, I had no transport and hadn't slept all night.
A nurse on the way to the labour ward, stopped the lift between floors and hissed into my face

" get a grip of yourself woman, if you're in this state now what will you be like when it gets bad."
I remember thinking " oh my god, what will I be like when it gets bad?"
20 minutes later I was holding my baby. It was already bloody bad.

It was a fast painful labour for both of us. M got stuck by his elbow because he had his fist pressed against his cheek. For months he did that whenever he was distressed.
I discharged myself that night. I never did complain. I wish I had. It might have stopped some other person being bullied.

Today we took him clay pigeon shooting for the first time.

Saturday 14 March 2009

End of home education

We've sent the letter requsting a school place. like it or lump it but I'll soon no longer be a home educating mum. I'm not sure whether this move is the right one, but its not my decision any more.

I have loved educating the boys at home. It has been great fun and I'd recommend it to any one.
Children learn. It's what they do. They learn what they need to accomplish whatever their current goals are. And when they are ready to move on they let you know.

I'll miss the camps, the picnics in the rain, the "not back to school" picnic at Spitchwick, taking holidays whenever we feel like it instead of having term time. The actual business of being there to help answer queries and find resources etc will still go on, so I'll still be home educating on that level.

Leaves me feeling a bit jobless.